Dhiiraj did the impossible. He helped our family talk about some really difficult things. I was expecting our family to break into arguments and finger pointing once we touched on certain hot button topics. He assured me it would be okay. He was funny and wise. It’s like he used a different language to speak with each person. We all stayed calm and engaged. We are closer than we have ever been and have even started laughing with each other about who gets what.
Thank goodness we were referred to Dhiiraj. Ever since our mother died, we have been in and out of court. I never thought I would be involved in a lawsuit with my siblings. We had been to two mediations already. We left even more frustrated. I was highly doubtful that anyone could help us. I was even more skeptical about a mediator who didn’t settle cases, but he was exactly what we needed.
Dhiiraj took the time to talk to each one of us. He also helped us talk to each other. That was the most surprising of all. We were in one room, and we were talking to each other! It got heated at times, but he helped us through and kept everyone calm. We haven’t resolved all the differences yet, but we are much closer to settling our case and have started rebuilding our relationships. I cannot thank him enough for his help and wisdom.
When my parents decided to talk to us about their estate plan, no one realized how my brothers and sisters would react. We stopped talking to each other because someone would walk out or start yelling. My parents worked so hard to build up their wealth. They were terrified that if they didn’t do anything, their kids would end up fighting with one another in court. They were so sad. Dhiiraj helped us talk to one another in a way that we had never done before. We realized we were carrying a lot of resentment against each other that we had never shared. We shouted, of course, but we also cried, laughed and loved. Our family is forever grateful to Dhiiraj.
Knowing all the facts would help estate planners create better trusts and help litigation attorneys more efficiently resolve family-related conflicts. Yet, the rules against conflicts of interests prevent attorneys from speaking with multiple family members to explore what each wants and what issues may be standing in the way. The next best solution, having each person hire their own counsel, is usually cost-prohibitive, unless the parties are already in litigation.
There is a better way. Our unique mediation services focus on creating understanding rather than the arm-twisting necessary to reach a settlement. Understanding can have profound impacts on a dispute. Once people realize where others are coming from, people tend to be more accommodating and compassionate with one another, which makes for better dispute resolution and win-win outcomes.
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